I used to try to show people how cool I was. I didn’t even realize I was doing it.
It’s just that when I couldn’t think of what to say, I would talk about myself and say things to put myself in a good light.
Have you ever found that when you didn’t know what to say that you talk about yourself? It’s easy to do.
But you know that you’re not connecting as well as you could be, don’t you?
So how do you change?
Well, I found out that what was driving me was the need for significance. When you are driven by the need for significance your conversations are going to come out a certain way.
Not that good.
Here’s how I changed it all around.